
We are now at the tag end of summer. That doesn't mean much for the ongoing daily heat and humidity but the early mornings and evenings are a bit more pleasant.
Ameri took the summer sessions off from her med tech training. She is now at a crossroad again. She has to take phlebotomy - she has to learn to draw blood samples. She is balking at it because she has had so many scheduled and routine samples drawn in her life. I have no idea how this will play out. Ameri chose Med Tech because her familiar (read boyfriend) is enrolled. The school is in the neighborhood and there is a large population of fellow cigarette smokers and other rudderless souls there. I remember how that was for me but it did not last and I chose ne'r-do-wells for their entertainment value and access to that which was forbidden and dangerous to pursue. They were buffers for me; that is to say that they were one level of deniability from that which was forbidden.
Please take what I say here below as a clinical assessment and not as criticism.
Ameri is crafty, sneaky and takes no responsibility for that which causes complications in her life. Every misadventure is someone else's fault; usually mine. I have previously described my pretty blond child as feral. She has many qualities of being something from the wild. She is much like a skittish horse or a street cat. She is wary, fearful of touch or attention and human warmth. Her eating habits are much like that thing. She has preferred foods which she prepares, consumes and purges in a predictable way. She has bouts of electrolyte imbalance
that cause her to become disoriented or to faint. All this is when she is around humans without having a horse to focus on. When a horse is under her and she is training or competing she is razor sharp and full of confidence. She drinks a lot of water in the heat and tends her mount with great care and concern.
At home Ameri is disconnected from any thing that tends to be work. At the barn, she is all work. She sweats. She gets filthy. She tugs and hauls. She digs out stalls and carries in
bedding. She is . . . or seems to be all work. Unfortunately, all that work the barn still looks like a mule skinner's flop house. She has never done well around a well run or well maintained
barn. She like the flop house stables. The woman who is her mentor accepts that as well. I have been around many well run stables. I have been schooled by a professional horsewoman (comes with degrees and certificates) who happens to be my sister. She is of the Churchill
Downs school of stable management. Her barns and shed rows look magnificent all the time. When she leaves at night, she drags a rake behind her to wipe out any foot prints. I have decided that behavior has two purposes. One, it is an OCD thing and two, it is a security
measure. There is always some evidence if someone has been noodling around in your facility. So, my sister has had Ameri in her tutelage briefly. Not much took with Ameri.
Ameri has worked and trained all summer. It is now the beginning of eventing season. She has her own horses but she has either outgrown them or she has failed to train up her green mount so that he may be brought along. She rides one of her mentors mounts. He is a big speckled gray with a bit of thoroughbred in him. He is a well structured hunter/jumper. He is heavily boned and quite capable of the 4-0 plus jumps that are required of him. He is a school horse. Ameri handles him well and has placed acceptably with him in her two events
for the start of this season.
So what do we, the parents, get for this?
She is off the street. She does not drive, club, or sex. She is not
checking herself into a psych ward. We know where she is and we know
whom she is with. This may not go on forever but for now, it is a
better situation than we were in for the Fall of 2005. (Please check the archive
on the right.
Some may know that Ameri's old dog, Shawn, is gone. He was quite ancient, for a dog. He was blind and deaf. For the past year he had had trouble finding his way out of the swimming pool. Here-to-fore, it had been no problem. He could not be kenneled because he would bark
himself into exhaustion and the neighbors would become concerned. He needed to patrol the perimeter of the house. It was in his nature. He was a Teneriffe Bichon and water was part of his DNA. The house perimeter included the the pool deck. I had been near enough to save
him previously but the last time, I was away on an errand and I came home to find him expired in the pool. He was a good old dog. I have drained the pool, sanitized it, and refilled it again for the second time this year. But! Ameri will not get in the pool. I am now guilty of killing her dog - in her mind.
Oh. Ameri's cat . . . his genetic ordnance pods are still in place and he likes to escape and "cat around". There are other cats in the neighborhood so he gets to get out and be a cat once in a while to test his dominance characteristics. He likes me. I feed him. I also arrange an occasional evening out for him. Am I bad?